Speaking My Child’s Love Language

As parents, we all know the feeling of putting in lots effort to make sure our children feel loved.  And sometimes it’s only to be met with an eye roll or a “Mom, stop hanging on me.” (ask me how I know)

That’s why I created the printable, the “5 Love Languages for Kids“—a tool designed to help you crack the code to your child’s heart!

And let me tell you, I’ve certainly used to it find out my own daughters’ love languages (all of them are different!).

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Understanding Love Languages

Just like adults, children have their own unique love languages—the specific ways they feel and express love. Dr. Gary Chapman, renowned relationship expert, identified five primary love languages in his book The Five Love Languages:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

Understanding your child’s love language can be a game-changer in building a closer, more meaningful relationship.

The 5 Love Languages for Kids Printable

This super helpful bundle includes the following:

  • For older kids: a 30-question quiz to discover their love language
  • For younger kids: a list of clues to help you identify your kids’ love language (looove this)
  • Lots of ideas for connection once you recognize how your child’s brain works

Once the quiz is completed, tally up the answers to unveil your child’s primary and secondary love languages!

My Girls’ Love Languages And How I Speak Them

Did you know that each of my girls has a different love language? Ack! It’s been tricky to learn how to show love to each of them.  Here’s some ideas that have worked for me! 
Erin: Words of Affirmation
Ways to speak it:
  • looking for the good and express gratitude for it
  • putting notes on her bed
  • complimenting her in front of other people
  • being honest and open
  • telling her that I love her often
  • reminding her of her strengths and cheer her on
Lucy: Quality Time
Ways to speak it:
  • staying up late with her
  • reading a book at the same time,
  • sharing a favorite show
  • going on mommy daughter dates (even if they are short)
  • doing puzzles together
  • having long chats
  • planning parties together
Nell: Acts of Service
Ways to speak it:
  • making her bed
  • pick up her library books on hold
  • helping her with a school paper
  • scratching her back
  • happily driving her to a friend’s house
  • helping her serve others
  • fixing something that was broken for her
Sybil: Receiving Gifts
Ways to speak it:
  • bringing her favorite snack to school pickup
  • sneaking Pugsley into her backpack
  • putting a note and a candy in her lunch box
  • getting her a new sticker for her water bottle
  • making her favorite dinner

Using the Love Language Chart

Speaking your child’s love language makes a world of difference. Whether it’s offering words of affirmation, spending quality time, performing acts of service, giving thoughtful gifts, or providing physical touch, these quiz results empower parents to speak their child’s unique love language fluently and well. 

So, print out that quiz, explore the clues, and get ready to unlock the secret language of your child’s heart!

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